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Keeping Up With The Joneses: The Bad Habit That Costs You Money

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Have you ever heard the phrase, “Keeping up with the Joneses,” before? And no, not the 2016 movie of the same name. Keeping up With The Joneses

This phrase actually plays an important reference when it comes to your personal finances as well. For example, you may make decent money but still seem to never be able to save and invest.

Additionally, you may find yourself spending too much money and always upgrading your stuff to the latest and greatest. Many times this is a symptom of keeping up with the Joneses. 

Below, you’ll learn more about this idiom, why it affects your finances, and how to stop worrying about the Joneses.

Table of Contents

  • What Does Keeping Up With The Joneses Mean?
  • Why Do People Try To Keep Up With the Joneses?
  • But, Are the Joneses Broke?
  • How to Stop Keeping up With the Joneses
  • Final Thoughts

What Does Keeping Up With The Joneses Mean?

Surprisingly, many of us may be trying to keep up with the Joneses and we don’t even realize it. This idea can easily begin to snowball out of control, which tends to start with lifestyle creep. 

Yet, even as your income grows you still find yourself living paycheck to paycheck or racking up more debt. What gives? 

Well, it’s very possible that you are busy trying to keep up with others around you. Whether it’s because you do not want to miss out on the latest and greatest or even just to impress others.

This is where “Keeping Up with The Joneses” begins. 

But let me get fancy for a minute here and put a simple definition behind it. Ready?

Keeping up with the Joneses is an idiom that originated in a comic strip in the early 1900s and represents the comparison to your peers or neighbors as a benchmark for what you material goods and lifestyle upgrades you should have. If you aren’t keeping up, then you are being left behind

Why Do People Try To Keep Up With the Joneses?

It’s human nature for us to want to be liked by others.

We also like knowing we can keep up with peers and feel like we are succeeding in life. And we want our peers, whether family, friends, colleagues, or neighbors to respect us. 

Unfortunately, ego, peer pressure, fear of missing out, wanting to have the best, or combo of those emotions drives our natural desire to “spend to impress.” 

And the pressures are even higher with social media platforms making it easy for others to show off.

While I work in the social media industry and see plenty of good, I also see the downsides these platforms have on our society. 

Although I won’t get too philosophical and deep in the woods here, social media has made it easy for people to brag — both intentionally and unintentionally. 

You start noticing people in your network going on the latest expensive vacation, buying a fancy new car, upgrading to a big house, or buying some other latest material item. 

It can mess with your mind a bit because you start to wonder if you are falling behind or that you are doing something wrong in life that you are not on that level.

Plus, you get bombarded with advertising everyday and shopping online is just a simple click away. The perfect storm for financial disaster! 

And there is nothing wrong with spending money on you from time to time. If you are prioritizing your finances correctly, feel free to spend on some things that you enjoy, because life is short. 

The problem becomes when you start to jeopardize your financial well-being to follow what everyone else is doing, or “keeping up with the Joneses.”

You start to live beyond your means and are unable to save money, invest for your future, or keep you keep adding more debt. 

Before you know it, your finances are completely out of control and for what? 

So, too quickly recap, here’s what can drive us to consume more than we can afford:

  • Want to show off success
  • Needing to have what others buy
  • Advertising and easy online shopping
  • Social media of others showing off
  • Strong sense of instant gratification 

But, Are the Joneses Broke?

Personally, I fell into the trap of wanting to keep up with the Joneses and I think many people do or have at some point in their life. 

Right when I started working on my personal finances in 2014, I couldn’t help but notice many of my peers in my age group were doing amazing things. Buying new and large houses, traveling all the time, and seemingly living the good life. 

But, I started to learn over time that much of it was a facade and a majority were actually struggling financially.

What you don’t see in these pictures is the amount of consumer debt that is ballooning. Or the lack of savings that a high-income won’t protect them when they are spending more than they are bringing in. 

Then, if a sudden emergency comes up or an unfortunate job loss hits, panic ensues! But, that’s also what you don’t see as no one wants to share the bad or their mistakes to the world. 

And keeping up with the Joneses is not going very well. In fact, the people you are trying to keep up with are mostly likely struggling or considered “broke.”

In this CNBC article, there were three statistics that jumped out to me:

  • 54% say they are “financially coping,” or struggling with some aspects of their financial lives
  • 17% consider themselves “financially vulnerable,” or struggling with all, or nearly all, parts of their financial lives
  • Almost 20% of people earning between $30,000 and $100,000 per year reported spending more than they earned (I think overall in America, that percentage is probably quite a bit higher). 

Now don’t get me wrong, keeping up with the Joneses might only be part of the financial problem.

There are many factors in building financial health, some that are in our control and others that might be more environmental factors. 

But I think it’s worth remembering that if you are spending to keep up with others, you’re also potentially going broke with them too. 

How to Stop Keeping up With the Joneses

Maybe keeping up with the Joneses doesn’t relate to you currently. If you are practicing good frugal living, saving and investing, and aren’t bothered by what others have — well done!

It took me a good year of my finances to really get this concept. I think The Millionaire Next Door (great read) is what really started to open my eyes a bit more. 

But if you feel you might be struggling with overspending or comparing yourself to others, then the below steps might help you break the bad financial cycle. 

1. Analyze why you are trying to keep up with the Joneses

For many of us, it may be more of a subconscious spending issue that we generally are not realizing. Or you might realize it, but try to ignore the problem out of existence. 

But if you want to make changes, really think about why you feel the need to keep up with others.

It could be a combination of different things like low self esteem, frustrated with direction of your current life, wanting to better fit in, etc. 

2. Figure out your own financial values

What are your personal values and beliefs that are meaningful to you in your life? What are things that you truly value spending money on? Are what others you see spending money on, something you absolutely value? 

Start asking more questions like that and get clear on what is important to you. This makes it easier to start making better financial decisions because you spend on your own values, not what others are valuing. 

3. Take a deeper look into the Joneses

No, I don’t mean spy on them or hire some private investigator. Don’t be a stalker! While I’m kidding about this, it is a good exercise to breakdown the appearances of the Joneses. 

Remember what you see or how they interact, is probably not the entire truth. Many people are leaving out truthful pieces, or you are only getting the sketch not the final painting. 

Everything from money, career, and relationships can all appear one way, but behind the scenes is a complete disaster.

You won’t always know all the truths, but if you remind yourself that others like to put on the best show, it can lift any pressure on yourself to be perfect and focus less on appearances. 

4. Stop following what others are doing so much

As I mentioned earlier, social media can play mind games with you as you see others constantly bragging to their followers. You know, showcasing that fancy vacation or new car. Whatever it may be. 

But if you find yourself constantly scrolling and following what others are buying or looking to up the ante, you need to find a way to dial it back. 

This can mean steering conversations differently, removing social media from your phone, or taking a break for awhile from it all to keep your mind clear. 

5. Look at your current financial situation

I always think a good wake up call is to look at your finances currently and run some numbers. For the longest time I thought I knew my spending and income just off the top of my head.

But when I started to learn and figure things out, I quickly realized how far off I was. I recommend using some personal finance tools to help you stay organized.

And when it comes to keeping up with the Joneses, start putting all those numbers together. Look at the damage you might be causing already or what it can do if it keeps going this way.

Plus, you can look at current areas like if you have any money saved, if you are investing, what your debt looks like and how overspending is impacting those areas. 

6. “Stuff” is generally temporary happiness

I like to have nice things from time to time, but I know that ultimately it will not bring me long-term happiness. Money can certainly set you up for a better and more comfortable life, no doubt about it.

The misconception is that having more of it and more material things will always create happiness.

But I think of it as a temperary patch that only works for so long. Trying to keep up with others is exhausting and is not going to make you happy.

The sooner you realize this, the less value you’ll place on what others have. Instead, you’ll begin to search and practice the things that do create happiness for you.

After all, we have one life to live and all that “stuff” is not coming with you. 

Final Thoughts

If you have made it this far, then you probably are starting to not like the influence the Joneses have on you.

And that’s okay because you can ultimately control how they impact your mind and finances by finding your values and realizing what appears to be perfect probably is not. 

The Joneses might be nice people or someone close in your life, but you can be friendly without mimicking their financial choices.

But keeping up with the Joneses is a quick way to live beyond your means, struggle financially, and potentially lead to some financial ruin if the path is not corrected. 

Remember, spending on yourself is okay in moderation, but you need to find what you value most and not value what others have.

Have you been a financial victim by keeping up with the Joneses? How did you learn to break the bad money habit? Or are you still struggling with it today? What has been the challenge to break the process? Let me know in the comments below!

Filed Under: Saving Money

Todd Kunsman

About Todd Kunsman

Todd is the founder of Invested Wallet and has been featured in Yahoo Finance, Business Insider, HuffPost, and many others. He is self-educated on personal finance and investing, having become debt-free and on a path to financial freedom. He's passionate about investing, saving money, making money, and helping others realize they can transform their finances on their own.

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